The art of seating arrangement

Imagine yourself attending a wedding where you don’t know anyone except for the bride. Or the groom. Unless you’re extremely friendly by nature (like, you make friends with strangers on a regular basis), it will be very difficult for you to find a place to sit and strike up a conversation with a person you’ve never met before.

The seating arrangement for the wedding reception is one of the more important aspects of planning your wedding, especially when you’re inviting a lot of guests. Unless your wedding is a very intimate celebration (like, only 50 guests or less), it’s necessary for you to have at least a blue print of where guests will sit come the wedding reception. Why am I just talking about wedding receptions? Well, for the simple reason that there won’t be a need for socialization during ceremony itself (you wouldn’t want your guests to be talking amongst themselves while you take your vows, would you?). But during the wedding reception, there is.

Wedding seating arrangement

Here are some tips on how to plan your wedding reception’s seating arrangement.

Create an alphabetized master list
Believe me, it’s not only about being compulsive, but creating an alphabetized master guest list really does help a lot. You can use a spreadsheet program like Microsoft Excel to automatically sort your guest’s names alphabetically. That way, guests can easily find their names and their table numbers at the entrance of your reception venue. It’s best to setup a reception table near the entrance, you can ask your friends or bridesmaids to man it for you (although sometimes there are wedding coordinators who already include this as part of their service).

Draw a table arrangement diagram
In order to do this, you must have a pretty good idea of your venue’s layout. It would be a better idea too to make this while getting your Head Waiter’s input. I actually did ours while I was at our caterer’s office. We were lucky; our caterer already had serviced another couple at our reception venue. That way, they were able to show us through a diagram where they will place the buffet table, the presidential tables, the guest tables, and the couple’s table (ours was situated in a gazebo). You don’t necessarily have to put each of the guests’ name on the diagram (what if they were over a hundred?!), but having an idea of how the table layout will be will help you in determining the placement of table numbers—thereby knowing where to seat your guests.

Sample guest table diagram

Say you have 150 guests—you’ll be needing about 15 tables, though your caterer will allot extra setups just in case—and you’ve already determined how these 15 tables will be laid out at the venue. Table 1 would be nearest the buffet table, table 15 being the farthest. With this in mind, you know that you should seat elder guests at Table 1 so they won’t find it difficult to get food. You’re not being discriminating by doing this, you’re just being accommodating 🙂

Mix and match
Here’s the trickiest part of seating arrangement: mixing and matching. It’s best to do at least a bit of “research” on your guests, so you’ll know where to seat them, and who to seat them with. You can group your guests by age group, or by common interest. That way, they’ll have something to talk about during your reception and won’t get bored.

Wedding reception table numberPremeditate tensions
There are (and will always be) relatives who just can’t stand each other, and it would be a very bad idea seating them in one table. In a situation like this, it might be better if you enlist the help of your parents or an elder relative. What if there’s an age-old family feud you never knew about? You obviously can’t put warring relatives in the same table, or they’ll end up glaring at each other for the rest of the night (or worse, you might end up with an unplanned drama worthy of an Oscars in your reception program). Make sure to seat them in tables as far away from each other as possible.

Meet with your wedding coordinator about the list
Obviously, you will need to do this. I didn’t get a wedding coordinator/planner for my wedding, but I did enlist the help of my friends in coordinating our reception and ceremony. I turned the list over to them and explained what to do in possible scenarios (say, guests who didn’t confirm suddenly came). After that, I didn’t have to worry about the guest list anymore.

Expect the unexpected
You’ll most likely get a finalized list of attending guests about a week before your wedding day (ours was finalized two days before). Although caterers usually prepare for unexpected attendees, you yourself should take that into consideration when planning your seating arrangement.

Keep in mind that the guest list is just a guest list—it’s bound to change. You shouldn’t stress yourself about following it to the latter (what if somebody couldn’t come due to an emergency?). There are just so many things that could happen that you wouldn’t be able to control, so better to keep an open-mind instead of freaking out at the littlest thing. The most that you can do is be prepared 🙂

CREDITS: Photos by Tri-Color Studio and Vince Villamin. Diagram by Gail Dela Cruz-Villanueva.

Posted in Planning, Pre-wedding, Reception

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You might be interested to know that there are software packages like PerfectTablePlan that can do the seating arrangements, alphabetic list and room layout for you. To find out more see:

http://www.perfecttableplan.com

Rick :

this is the clubhouse at acropolis, right?

Gail :

@Rick: yup, it is 🙂

tere :

How did u make the table number? any suggestions? do u well have any suggestions on how i can “wrap” my rosary as a souvenir? we’re on a tight budget though..god bless! ü

tere :

How did u make the table number? any suggestions? do u aswell have any suggestions on how i can “wrap” my rosary as a souvenir? we’re on a tight budget though..god bless! ü

Maddie :

Can you please provide in order who should sit with the bride and groom?

What is the proper etiquette seating arrangement for the parents, bridal party, and also the godparents or principal sponsors?

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