The wedding that wasn’t meant to be

Blame it on the media. And books. And stories of happily ever after. Hell, even the concept of “Camelot,” the concept of “finding the one.” But marriage isn’t just about wedding rings, gorgeous gowns and expensive food. It’s not just about romance. It’s about spending the rest of your life with your husband—your partner in life.

But unfortunately, with all the media available to us, marriage has been romanticized to a degree that some people are made to believe that it’s easy. Others, on the other hand, become so caught up with the preparation of the wedding too much to actually prepare for marriage life itself. Some forget that the wedding is just a ceremony, and things won’t ever be the same again after the “big day.” Read more »

Divisoria: Haven of cheap wedding gowns

Prior to her stroke, my mom had been a rabid shopper. She wasn’t a spend-thrift, mind you. She was smart. She bought our clothes and what-have-you’s in Divisoria at really low prices. I guess that’s why I always think that if you need to get something cheap, you can get it at Divisoria.

Nothing changed when I was searching for the perfect gown. Although some of my high society relatives insisted on it, I didn’t really see the need for having a designer gown. Besides, my budget couldn’t afford it.

Being the artist that I am, you really couldn’t help but want to have your entourage’s gowns be color-coordinated—and the same. My husband-to-be and I at that time didn’t have much to spend with. I was about to accept the fact that my entourage’s gowns will probably just be similarly colored (but not uniformed), until an aunt reminded me of the gowns in Divisoria. Read more »

Why you shouldn’t get hitched on Valentines’ Day

Yeah, I know it’s romantic. You get hitched the same time Zeus and Hera got on with it (seriously, it says in Wikipedia that Valentines’ Day is about the time they got married too). But sentimental stuff aside, it’s really not that practical to get married on Heart’s day.

For one thing, you’re going to be a real torture for your guests: imagine the terrible traffic they’ll have to go through. Couples usually go out on Valentines’ day to celebrate their love, so you can just imagine the frustration you’ll be putting your guests through just to nab a parking space.

Another issue I have with a Valentines’ Day wedding date is the fact that you can’t be sure it would fall on a weekend. Unless you don’t want guests to attend your wedding, it’s better to set the date on a weekend. Like this year, Valentines’ Day falls on a Wednesday (Manila time). It’s the middle of the week, the peak work day for most office-goers. Taking this in mind, your guests will really have to love you that much so they’ll take time off work or school just to attend your wedding. That’s the hassle of having it on a weekday—your guests usually have work or school.

Good luck with the flowers. It’s Hearts’ day. Thoughtful boyfriends and husbands buy their loved ones flowers on that day. It’s either you get charged extra by your supplier for choosing the highest peak of their peak season, or you get lucky and nab a generous supplier who do not mind getting flowers when prices are doubled in the name of love. Flower stylists usually get their supplies early in the morning of the event to keep the flowers fresh (my mom used to run a flower shop). And when they get it on Valentines’ Day, you can be sure that the prices would be doubled—maybe even more. The demand for flowers on that day is high—what did you expect?

But if you’re really bent on having the romantic, fairytale Valentines’ Day wedding, I would really suggest you start booking a church (if you’re Catholic) and a reception venue as early as now. For a wedding next year. I’m not kidding. I may be a total spoilsport when it comes to romantic stuff (God must have forgotten to put a romantic bone in my body before I was born), but most women aren’t. You will definitely have competition with that date, sister. So book early!

Fine. Biases and practical reasoning aside, it would be pretty cute to have the big day on Valentines’ Day. I have my gauge of what romantic is (wedding on Valentines’ Day is an overkill for me), but then, to each his own. If you’re really bent on having it on this day, by all means, go ahead. But you will be in for a wedding planning roller coaster ride—it won’t be easy.

What about you? Would you want to get hitched on Valentines’ Day? Why?

Daddy’s girl

I’m a daddy’s girl. There. I said it. And I’m actually proud to be one.

Although being the apple of my dad’s eye has its perks (like, he’d make sure that my husband and I don’t go hungry no matter what happens), being a daddy’s girl can be quite a challenge when you’re about to get married. My dad and I were practically at each other’s throats the week before my wedding day. For some reason, we always had to argue about the wedding details. If my mom hadn’t suffered a stroke, this probably would have been avoided—we would have had a referee. But since things have changed, it was just me and my dad battling it out over the wedding plans.

I think the worst argument we had was about the first dance tradition—it even culminated in a shouting match where my younger sister had to step in. Though my dad said he “absolutely refuses to submit himself in such an embarrassing situation,” in the end, it all just boils down to one thing: he was afraid he was losing me. Though he never really said it. He just told me that it’s not that he didn’t like the Father-Daughter dance, he just wanted to be consulted on things that would involve him. But I understood what he really meant. After that major fight, it was as if we were both relieved of this weird feeling of impending doom. Read more »

Calligraphy on invitations

It’s common practice that the addressing an invitation be done in calligraphy. I don’t think I’ve ever received a wedding invite that didn’t have calligraphy on the envelope. But you know what? My own wedding invitation didn’t make use of calligraphy.

Maybe it’s because weddings are usually grand affairs here in the country; the perfect excuse to dress up and experience the “elegant, high society” life (at least for one day). They usually brought to mind chandeliers, crystal goblets, and expensive china. Not to mention extravagant flower arrangements at every nook and canny of the room. With that grand a wedding, I would say it’s an insult to your invitations if the envelopes weren’t addressed using calligraphy. Read more »

Ring shopping!

This is probably one of the most exciting part of wedding planning: ring shopping! But, to be totally honest, this was the “most painful” for our pockets. Face it, rings don’t come in pancake packages—these babies aren’t cheap. But then again, I guess it will all depend on where you get the rings.

My husband, Marc, and I spent around P13,000 for our rings. Yes, P13k for both them already. And they weren’t made of silver, mind you. White gold! With a tiny, teeny weeny diamond on encrusted on each. We were on a tight budget, but we didn’t want the “symbols of our unending love” be as cheap as those things you’ll find in sterling silver shop. We wanted it to be worth something, but still within our reach. Read more »